Boundaries & Relation

My interpretations of spiritualism are based on the principles of Bhagavad Gita and my life experiences.

When any two people get close, they always try to create boundaries and limitations for each other. If we think about it, we can realize that the basis of all our relationships are within the boundaries that we create for one another. And even when someone breaks these boundaries coincidently, we immediately experience anger. Does this not happen to us? However, do we ever think what is the actual form of these boundaries?

Based on the boundaries that we create, we forbid the other person to take any decisions and rather push our decisions onto them. Meaning that we disapprove of a person's independence. And whenever a person is denied of their independence, they feel sad about it and when they break the boundaries, we feel angry about it. Is this not correct? However, if we try to respect each other's independence, do we need any such boundaries or limitations at all? If we consider acceptance as the heart of a relationship, is independence not the soul of a relationship?

What do you think about it?


"We only have the right to our work and not to its results. Therefore, it is neither advisable to give up our work nor to expect any results for the same." - Bhagavad Gita